Parents and children 父母和子女

Source: Whatsapp on 2017-01-13

Gifted scholar Zhao Jie from the university of Beijing wrote :

" I admire those parents who are able to forge extremely strong and close bonds with their children when they were young and yet know when to let go in a timely and appropriate manner when the children have grown up.

A parent- child relationship is not a type of permanent relationship with the parents being in control.
It is a special and profound relationship brought about by fate; we must not let the child feel deprived or lacking when they were young and neither should we let them feel stifled when they have grown up.

The role of parents is not easy；it's a journey of love and wisdom.
Very often people wonder why do we have children? Is it to carry on the family's line or to raise children to take care of us in old age?...

Finally, I found an answer: the reason for having children is for both to love and to appreciate.
We should not ask for perfection in our children, neither should we expect them to win credits to honour the family nor should we want them as an insurance for old age.

We are just glad that we have the chance to walk with them through part of their journey of life in this world.

Our only wish is for our children to be healthy n happy.

For all the parents...  who love their children !

北大才女趙婕寫到:「我欽佩一種父母，她們在孩子年幼時給予強烈的親密，又在孩子長大後學會得體的退出，照顧和分離都是父母在孩子身上必須完成的任務。親子關係不是一種恆久的佔有，而是生命中一場深厚的緣分，我們既不能使孩子感到童年貧瘠，又不能讓孩子覺得成年窒息。做父母，是一場心胸和智慧的遠行。不僅僅是做父母，人生的許多時刻都應該懂得進退。」
       經常有人聊起：要孩子是為了什麼？傳宗接代還是養兒防老？終於聽到一個令人感動的答案：為了付出與欣賞。
       不求孩子完美，不用替我爭臉，更不用幫我養老。只要這個生命健康存在，在這個美麗的世界上走一遍，讓我有機會與他同行一段……
       這段話很美，美到想哭……於是告誡自己：換個方式去愛孩子！只要他（她）健康，快樂，足矣…——送給所有的父母！